UPDATE: After ripping a ‘gifted’ check of $40,000 and cutting off contact with his parents, kid fakes reconciliation only to take the money and move far away

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May 6, 2024 6:00 AM EDT

The college student who had made parents and kids question their relationships is back with an update, and the family drama continues.

In his original Reddit post, OP (original poster), wrote about how his parents have made him pay rent in their home for four years of college, causing him to have no social life as he had to work. Then the parents thought it was a good life lesson to 'gift' him back all the money he paid as a graduation present. Feeling betrayed, OP ripped the check and cut off all contact with his parents, claiming he is better off without them. This caused people all over the internet to discuss whether he was right to be mad, or simply acted ungrateful.

In the update below, OP shares that he decided to have lunch with his parents and let them apologize for their actions. They then again give him a check in the sum of everything he paid them in the last four years and this time, OP takes the money and says thank you. Yet OP is not actually interested in forgiving his parents, and reveals that he was only after his hard-earned money…

Scroll down to read the full update. After that, click here for a story of a daughter and mother feud over child support money. 

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  • 01
    UPDATE on telling my parents to shove their money.
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  • 02
    Not sure why but my other throwaway got deleted. I took a lot of what you guys had to say to heart. I unblocked my family and spoke with my parents.
    via u/No-Fishing-4775
  • 03
    I agreed to meet with them for lunch today. We went to The Keg and talked. They said they didn't realize how I felt for those four years. My mom cried and said she was very sorry that I felt like they didn't care about me. I guess they read my post
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  • 04
    from before it got taken down and they are disturbed by what I wrote. They are also upset that my "girlfriend" is a single mom 14 years older than me. They asked if they could meet her and I said no.
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  • 05
    They offered me the cheque again and this time I took it and thanked them. I said I would come home later.
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  • 06
    After lunch I went to the bank and deposited it. Since we all bank at the same branch it was easy to cash it. I made sure that the money was in my account.
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  • 07
    Then I blocked them again. I just wrote my "girlfriend" a cheque for $4,312 to help her out. It was the interest on the money more or less. She is a decent person and she taught me a lot. She works her o off
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  • 08
    loading trucks and she deserves something good in her life. I know that isn't me. I am seeing my grandfather tomorrow. I am going to make sure he knows what I did and
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  • 09
    why. I am also going to invite him out to see my new place once I move our West. I'm spending the weekend at my "girlfriend's" house since her ex has the kids. Thank you all for your help and advice.
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  • 10
    stillregrettingthis this seems like a crazy reaction after they learned the lesson and obviously didn't know what they were doing. Especially since deep down they saved it all fore you which means they gained nothing. Only did something stupid but with your best interest in mind.
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  • 11
    [deleted] They stole time from him. It can never be replaced or made up for. They basically ruined his life trying to get some kind of praise handing their kid his own money back as if that counts as them giving the child anything. It does not. They have taken 4 years away from their son and gave him absolutely nothing for it. They are monsters.
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  • 12
    Sad_Wind8580 I hope your move goes well and you start healing. Keep in contact with your Grandpa, he sounds like a stand up dude. Maybe in time you'll want a relationship with your siblings, and he can help facilitate that if necessary. I'm glad you got your money - cause it was back in your account too. yours -
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  • 13
    No-Fishing-4775 OP I loved giving away their interest. I only have what was rightfully mine. And she will use it well.
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  • 14
    Easy_Needleworker503 NTA, you had me sad when you said you where going home...then you blocked them again and i literally yelled "YESSSS!!!" you had me worried there for a second. 166 Reply Share No-Fishing-4775 OP Nope. Just sitting here with my friend drinking and laughing.
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  • 15
    Lumpy-Passenger9374 I get and good for you, I hope you live your best life. I'm also someone who once burned, would demand something unrealistic like that time back, and I've always kinda hated that about me. So what realistic thing could they do to earn you back in their life?
    via u/Lumpy-Passenger9374
  • 16
    No-Fishing-4775 OP Honestly. I have thought a long time about it. I can't come up with anything realistic. All would involve them living in poverty or a time machine. Every time they asked me how they could make it up to me I had no answers. I wanted to say they
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  • 17
    had to pay all my bills for four years while I travel the world. And that is great and they could afford that. But then I am four years back in my career. All of my responses are like that. Everything I can think of me over too. So all that leaves me with is the peace that will come from telling everyone in my new city that I am an orphan.
    via u/No-Fishing-4775
  • 18
    Hour-Ad-1193 Wait, what did I miss? Do you have a girlfriend? I thought you didn't have a social life because you had to work all the time
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  • 19
    No-Fishing-4775 OP It's my friend from work. I almost took with me to lunch to meet my parents and introduce her as my fiancee. Her idea of a joke. I did consider it though. She is pretty but not a woman my parents would want me to marry. And she is only ten years younger than my mom.
    via u/No-Fishing-4775
  • 20
    _Telvani_ What was the reason for giving your girl friend the money what was her reaction to it? and
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  • 21
    No-Fishing-4775 OP I felt like doing something nice with money that my parents would hate. She was very appreciative of the money and tried not to accept it. I said my next choice for that money would be Pierre Poilievre and she accepted it just to keep it away from him.
    via u/No-Fishing-4775
  • 22
    _Telvani_ Lol, honestly I wouldn't have done it but I understand, it mustn't have been easy those four years, I'm sure you're very grateful for her.
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  • 23
    No-Fishing-4775 OP · She helped keep me sane. It's hilarious but if she was my age I would be asking her to move west with me. I started to have feelings for her a while back and she threatened to stop seeing me.
    via u/No-Fishing-4775
  • 24
    Ignantsage Whelp you were definitely not an Ah before but for this I would say YTA. Taking the money? cool. blocking them? Cool. Doing so after telling them that you would come home implying things were better? AH move. I'm not gonna say this as bad as what they did, but at least their motive was good if misguided.
    via u/Ignantsage
  • 25
    No-Fishing-4775 OP My actions were not misguided. I wanted my money but not them in my life.
    via u/No-Fishing-4775

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